things with brian have moved really quickly and everything is going really well. we've met some of each other's friends, he's sweet, we mutually keep in touch often and i enjoy his company. hell, we're even planning a vacation together. all of that being said, i am well aware that we haven't known each other for very long and probably won't have an "exclusive" conversation for some time. i don't want to get too invested in brian too quickly - for all i know, he could be out dating other chicks.
this leads me to kyle.
i was set up with kyle through a friend of a friend. we met up for coffee this evening (hello, sober date!) in the glebe. now, to be honest, i did have a moment where i felt guilty before going on the date. brian had called to see what i was up to - i'm not very good at lying: "oh, just getting together with a friend." i've never been very good at dating more than one person at a time. but i digress... kyle is 33, funny, owns his own house in the south end of the city, works from home for a financial company, and is originally from thunder bay but has a brother living in the city. he's cute - kind of has a colin farrell thing going on. we immediately launched into talk of jobs, family, travel, and live music. i thought the date was going well, but after roughly an hour, kyle sort of abruptly claimed he had to go meet up with a buddy of his. to be honest, it threw me off. i was JUST getting to know this guy, and i thought things were going well, and he's ready to leave? i figured he either double booked himself or maybe it was an excuse to get out of a bad date. one thing that i did notice on our date was that he didn't seem to be paying attention to our conversation. for example, we had this whole conversation about how i didn't own a car, and then he'd ask me where i parked. it happened several times - maybe nerves or a serious case of ADD? at the end of our (short but sweet) date, kyle did say that we should get together again. so we shall see!
in other news - my eharmony account expired yesterday. i didn't renew it because i was honestly really disappointed in my eharmony experience over the past 6 months. i was VERY rarely contacted by any of my matches, or i would communicate with someone and get halfway through the eharmony stages and then it would fizzle. the site has clearly worked for some of my friends, and maybe i will try it again in the future, but for now, i am taking a break from it.
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Round 2: Brian
i had a second date with brian last night. the short version: he picked me up and we went out for dinner and spent the rest of the evening watching tv and chatting. he looked really cute (he shaved and got a hair cut!). i really enjoy his company and look forward to getting to know him better! we are already talking about how he's going to cook for me, going whitewater rafting this summer, etc so it's nice to know that the feeling is mutual. the time seems to slip by when we're together and it feels like i've known him longer than i have. we have plans to meet up again on fri night!
Monday, April 4, 2011
Brian
after a few weeks of chatting back and forth on POF, i decided to ask Brian out. there was something about his profile - he didn't take himself too seriously and was funny. he was feeling sick at the time, but said he would definitely like to meet once he was feeling better. he gave me his # and we texted back and forth quite a bit this past weekend. on two occasions he invited me out with his friends, but that would be such an awkward first encounter. or would it? sometimes i feel like a good friend screening and stamp of approval would be really nice to have. call me old fashioned, but i like to meet up one-on-one the first time. he may have suggested it because he was fairly new to POF and had never met up with anyone before. the poor guy had had a terrible weekend with a flooded apartment and was practically homeless, just couch surfing with the few friends he's made in ottawa who have stuck around over the past 6 years.
rewind: a bit about brian. he's 4 years younger than me, 6'2", athletic build, lives downtown (on his own) and has a nice smile. it kind of freaks me out how attractive he is. brian works in a management position for a pool service company. he doesn't like it, and his plan would be to go to law school. he's also pretty serious about learning french, something that would be really beneficial to working in the gov't, etc. originally from cambridge, brian moved to ottawa (wait for it...) because he's a Sens fan. he was a bit embarrassed about admitting that, but i think it's great. i asked him if he plans to stick around in the city and he said yes. he has a sister who has two kids, and i'm pretty sure all of his family still lives in southern ontario. he's been in a few long-term relationships, the most recent one being a few months ago. brian explained that his gf (who was quite a bit younger than him) wanted to break up because she wasn't ready for marriage, kids, etc.
we met up at the james street pub and it was such a nice spring day, that i enjoyed my first beer on a patio in the sunshine! how can you beat that (even if the date goes horribly wrong)? brian is super chatty (even though he claims to be shy) and we spent a good amount of time discussing travel, namely Barcelona - somewhere we've both visited. after a few beers, the waitress brought us our bill. oh no, i'm not ready to leave yet, i thought! both brian and i didn't have any cash on us, so i offered to pay for the bill. he did make a comment that it should be him paying, but i told him he could get it next time. he offered to treat me to dinner at the clocktower - i said yes! but first, i had to go to the washroom. when i came back upstairs, i couldn't find brian on the patio. OH MY GOD ARE YOU *#$(%*#$%& KIDDING ME, HE DITCHED ME?! i was in shock. and then i saw him coming up the stairs (he had also gone to the washroom). pfew!
the time just kept slipping by... all of a sudden it was 5 hours later and we were eating burgers and still chatting away. again, didn't want the date to end. i suggested we go to the LCBO and buy a bottle of wine and continue the conversation at my place (i.e., way cheaper than buying expensive drinks at the pub). brian liked the idea, but we were so full from dinner, he only had one request. could he swing by his place first and change into his sweatpants to be more comfy. ok, now i seriously love this guy! and i'm totally going to change into my sweatpants too.
in the end, we spent nearly 10 hours together on a first date which is pretty crazy. i had a really good time with brian and will no doubt be seeing him again soon!
rewind: a bit about brian. he's 4 years younger than me, 6'2", athletic build, lives downtown (on his own) and has a nice smile. it kind of freaks me out how attractive he is. brian works in a management position for a pool service company. he doesn't like it, and his plan would be to go to law school. he's also pretty serious about learning french, something that would be really beneficial to working in the gov't, etc. originally from cambridge, brian moved to ottawa (wait for it...) because he's a Sens fan. he was a bit embarrassed about admitting that, but i think it's great. i asked him if he plans to stick around in the city and he said yes. he has a sister who has two kids, and i'm pretty sure all of his family still lives in southern ontario. he's been in a few long-term relationships, the most recent one being a few months ago. brian explained that his gf (who was quite a bit younger than him) wanted to break up because she wasn't ready for marriage, kids, etc.
we met up at the james street pub and it was such a nice spring day, that i enjoyed my first beer on a patio in the sunshine! how can you beat that (even if the date goes horribly wrong)? brian is super chatty (even though he claims to be shy) and we spent a good amount of time discussing travel, namely Barcelona - somewhere we've both visited. after a few beers, the waitress brought us our bill. oh no, i'm not ready to leave yet, i thought! both brian and i didn't have any cash on us, so i offered to pay for the bill. he did make a comment that it should be him paying, but i told him he could get it next time. he offered to treat me to dinner at the clocktower - i said yes! but first, i had to go to the washroom. when i came back upstairs, i couldn't find brian on the patio. OH MY GOD ARE YOU *#$(%*#$%& KIDDING ME, HE DITCHED ME?! i was in shock. and then i saw him coming up the stairs (he had also gone to the washroom). pfew!
the time just kept slipping by... all of a sudden it was 5 hours later and we were eating burgers and still chatting away. again, didn't want the date to end. i suggested we go to the LCBO and buy a bottle of wine and continue the conversation at my place (i.e., way cheaper than buying expensive drinks at the pub). brian liked the idea, but we were so full from dinner, he only had one request. could he swing by his place first and change into his sweatpants to be more comfy. ok, now i seriously love this guy! and i'm totally going to change into my sweatpants too.
in the end, we spent nearly 10 hours together on a first date which is pretty crazy. i had a really good time with brian and will no doubt be seeing him again soon!
Saturday, April 2, 2011
Computer Daddies
i had been wanting to check out a meetmarketadventure singles event for a while, and finally had the opportunity to participate in one last night. if you check out the website, they list tons of really unique and interesting activities (tennis clinic, hike in the gatineaus, flying lessons, firing range?! - probably so you can shoot yourself, etc) - things that would be fun, even if a match wasn't to be made. the event i attended was advertised as a spring fling party where 100 singles meet after work at a new bar in the market, My Condo. i knew of at least 5 other ladies who would be in attendance. i decided to email the organization to ask if they would be able to provide me with the ratio of men: women who had registered. no such luck! also, it made me nervous that my suspicions would be confirmed (as they were) that there would be WAY more women in attendance than men. helloooo, it is Ottawa after all. sidenote: i would love to actually get the stats on that...
i showed up an hour late and was surprised to find the bar completely packed. it was a bit intimidating and overwhelming at first. they had organized a game called "person bingo" where everyone is handed a card and has to mingle and chat with others to help them fill in their cards. "Do you like broccoli?" felt funny to say, but it actually was a clever way to break the ice.
this is going to sound mean and shallow, but all (and i mean ALL) of the men were OLD (turns out there was no specific age range set), short, bald and ugly. the women, on the other hand, gorgeous catches. wow, i thought. these men really have the cream of the crop here! one of my friends coined the term "computer daddies" which made me laugh, but was surprisingly accurate. have you ever watched the show Beauty and the Geek? yeah...i felt like a lot of the men were socially awkward nerds. hey, i love a good nerd, but socially awkward nerdy is entirely different. this one man with a big belly, shirt tucked in, pants pulled high and comb-over came up to me complaining about how "loud" the music was. dude, we're in a club. also, i felt like he really struggled making conversation. it was very difficult for me to feign interest. one man pointed out that it looked as though every woman came to the event with a friend, whereas the men flew solo. good point: ladies, if you're serious about meeting a man at one of these things, don't show up with a gaggle of your competitors. easier said than done - we like to travel in packs.
i didn't have any expectations for the event, but felt so depressed that i quickly gave up on the bingo. bring on the wine! i spent the rest of the evening catching up with my girlfriends, which was WAY more fun, much to the organizers' disapproval. oh wait, he's cute.... nevermind, he's the bartender. after an hour, we ladies called it quits and moved on to a nearby pub to indulge in some pub food, drinks and enjoyable conversation. so the night wasn't a complete bust! and i have to have a sense of humour about it, otherwise i'll cry. hahaha?
bottom line: i won't be attending another meetmarketadventure singles event again. i shouldn't say never, but i would need some serious convincing. i've been to enough organized speed dating events to know that it's always the same turnout. and think about it, what guy friend or ex do you know that would actually go to one of these things? exactly.
i showed up an hour late and was surprised to find the bar completely packed. it was a bit intimidating and overwhelming at first. they had organized a game called "person bingo" where everyone is handed a card and has to mingle and chat with others to help them fill in their cards. "Do you like broccoli?" felt funny to say, but it actually was a clever way to break the ice.
this is going to sound mean and shallow, but all (and i mean ALL) of the men were OLD (turns out there was no specific age range set), short, bald and ugly. the women, on the other hand, gorgeous catches. wow, i thought. these men really have the cream of the crop here! one of my friends coined the term "computer daddies" which made me laugh, but was surprisingly accurate. have you ever watched the show Beauty and the Geek? yeah...i felt like a lot of the men were socially awkward nerds. hey, i love a good nerd, but socially awkward nerdy is entirely different. this one man with a big belly, shirt tucked in, pants pulled high and comb-over came up to me complaining about how "loud" the music was. dude, we're in a club. also, i felt like he really struggled making conversation. it was very difficult for me to feign interest. one man pointed out that it looked as though every woman came to the event with a friend, whereas the men flew solo. good point: ladies, if you're serious about meeting a man at one of these things, don't show up with a gaggle of your competitors. easier said than done - we like to travel in packs.
i didn't have any expectations for the event, but felt so depressed that i quickly gave up on the bingo. bring on the wine! i spent the rest of the evening catching up with my girlfriends, which was WAY more fun, much to the organizers' disapproval. oh wait, he's cute.... nevermind, he's the bartender. after an hour, we ladies called it quits and moved on to a nearby pub to indulge in some pub food, drinks and enjoyable conversation. so the night wasn't a complete bust! and i have to have a sense of humour about it, otherwise i'll cry. hahaha?
bottom line: i won't be attending another meetmarketadventure singles event again. i shouldn't say never, but i would need some serious convincing. i've been to enough organized speed dating events to know that it's always the same turnout. and think about it, what guy friend or ex do you know that would actually go to one of these things? exactly.
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