Another Match.com date! Jason and I have been chatting for a few weeks now and discovered that we both work on Elgin, so I suggested we meet up for a coffee. After my last disastrous date with Neil, I want to avoid wasting any more of my time. A coffee date is perfect for that - short and sweet! Jason is 37, same height as me, a doctor, separated and has two sons (ages 7 and 9) and lives not too far from Centretown. He has 50/50 custody with his ex, so has his sons every other week. He seems like a great dad and really enjoys spending time with his kids (good sign).
Jason had contacted me first and when I read his profile, it really spoke to me. I also liked his 'alias' of 'onethankfuldude'. He seemed really sweet, polite and thoughtful. Hopefully I wasn't off base this time! My one worry was that while his messages all seemed really well written, that Jason would turn out to be boring... or worse... lack a sense of humour.
We met up this morning and I was pleasantly surprised. He has a very welcoming smile and we laughed a lot on our date. Turns out, Jason works at a medical clinic on Elgin - but is also experiencing some restructuring at work himself, so we chatted about that quite a bit. He's very into music and plays some music himself. We chatted for about 45 minutes before I headed back to work. I gave him a hug and he said he would be in touch soon. I had a nice time and would go on another date with him. Time will tell!
UPDATE: I did go on a second date with Jason after he was done a late shift at work. Very sweet guy, but I just wasn't physically attracted to him. Also, he seemed very busy being a part-time dad and full-time doctor!
Wednesday, June 17, 2015
Tuesday, June 9, 2015
Neil
I don't even really know where to start with this one...
After chatting briefly on pof, Neil asked me if I'd like to meet up for drinks sometime this week. Typically, I chat a bit more with a dude prior to meeting up, but thought to myself, what the hell - why not. He seemed polite and very excited for our date. I knew that Neil was 37 yrs old, 6'1, had a freelance job in marketing/publishing (used to be the editor of a well known local newspaper), and lived downtown. That was about it.
We agreed to meet up on Tues night at Bridgehead at....9pm! Immediately I wondered why so late (ahem, past my bedtime), so asked if we could push it earlier to 8pm. He had to work until 8pm. I asked if we could meet up somewhere that served alcohol. We compromised and agreed to meet at Atomic Rooster at 8:30pm. Sidenote: I clearly didn't read his profile closely enough to see that he doesn't drink (recovering alcoholic maybe?).
Neil was waiting for me outside. He was super handsome, but I was thrown off by what he was wearing (as he did say he was coming straight from work)... jeans, sweatshirt and a backpack? He almost looked like a panhandler. He explained that the Rooster was too noisy and suggested that we go to the Royal Oak. I made a reference to it as the 'Dirty Oak' (which anyone who lives downtown would understand), but poor Neil didn't get it and I think misunderstood, thinking that I was unhappy with his choice. He ordered a Pepsi and I got a beer. And then things got weird.
Case in point:
- smacking his hubba bubba gum with his mouth open
- putting his arms behind his head in the booth we were sitting at
- cracking highly offensive/politically incorrect jokes which were NOT funny
- eyeing me up and down, massaging my shoulder from across the table, holding both of my hands, asking me to touch his mosquito bite(??)
- asking me if he 'passed the interview' or if he got a strike for being a renter
- telling me how he doesn't have kids, but he sure likes to "practice" (ew) and then wanting to cheers to it
- super rude to wait staff
- making fun of me for working in the gov't
- making fun of crunchy granola hippie types who live in Centretown (says the guy who is wearing BRACELETS, brags about yoga and lives in Centretown himself!)
- could sense his huge disappointment that I wasn't artistic (he asked me this question several times)
The list goes on and on. Neil was super cocky, arrogant and all over the place. He'd ask me a question, I would go to answer, and then he would jump into another question. Was he high?!
Neil suggested we go for a walk, which I (stupidly) agreed to. Again, I am terrible at getting out of horrible dates. That should have been my cue to leave.
The bill came and Neil mumbled something about going dutch. I explained that I only had a $20 (as did he). I figured he might just offer to pay for my drink, but no. He gave his $20 to the waitress who started to give him change for the bill, but then he sharply asked her what she was doing; that he had asked her for change for a $20. She was confused (as was I)! She gives him change and then he puts down $6 and she explained that he will need to pay for the rest of the bill (obviously). He then states that the $6 is for me and then I awkwardly put down my $20. Talk about complicated and embarrassing!!! When he went to the washroom, I apologized to her. Neil made a comment as we were leaving that the waitress seemed surly.
We ended up walking to a different bar where we got one more drink and the weirdness continued. We had nothing in common. I was annoyed because I had left my bike behind when we were walking in the direction of my place. After going dutch yet again, we called it a night. We walked back toward my bike and then parted ways at one of the intersections. I sensed he lived more North of where we were walking and wanted to ditch him. I gave him a quick hug, said it was nice to meet him and to have a good night. Of course this guy wouldn't walk me to my bike late at night or care if I got home safely!
This was our text message exchange when I got home:
N: Cute. But you're one hard person to read lol
J: Sorry lol
N: I don't often sit in bars. Glad we went to that second place. I'll remember it.
I was mostly upset that I wasted my time with this weirdo instead of staying in to watch The Bachelorette.
UPDATE: Jay
Jay recently reached out to me a few times on pof... once about a month ago asking me how my summer was going and if I had been up to the cottage (I didn't respond) and then again more recently after creating a new profile (not sure why?)... he asked if he could basically have a second chance, that he still owes me a drink. I told him that the moment had passed and wished him luck.
UPDATE: Rob
Rob and I ended up going out on about 5 dates in total, including one spectacular bday dinner prepared by moi. I went to a lot of time and money to do something nice for Rob. So when I suggested a movie as our next date, I thought he would offer to pay. Nope. He asked if I wanted to get the movie tickets and he would grab the snacks.... To be honest, this turned me off. He's a DIRECTOR in the government for god's sake! It never dawned on him to perhaps pay for BOTH the movie and snack... is chivalry dead? Perhaps. After the cheap movie date, I didn't hear from Rob for a good 4 days. I could tell he had lost interest... but I had left my 'good' Tupperware at his place (ahem, leftovers from above mentioned meal) and wanted it back. I swung by to pick it up and could tell by Rob's body language that things were done. He didn't seem to really want to let me into his place - I didn't feel welcome, so I left. A few hours later, I texted him to see how he thought our dates were going and he admitted that while physically attracted to me, he didn't think we 'clicked' in conversation. I always got the impression that maybe I wasn't too 'intellectual' enough for him, not that we had deep discussions. Maybe this is why Rob is single at 44? Sigh!
After chatting briefly on pof, Neil asked me if I'd like to meet up for drinks sometime this week. Typically, I chat a bit more with a dude prior to meeting up, but thought to myself, what the hell - why not. He seemed polite and very excited for our date. I knew that Neil was 37 yrs old, 6'1, had a freelance job in marketing/publishing (used to be the editor of a well known local newspaper), and lived downtown. That was about it.
We agreed to meet up on Tues night at Bridgehead at....9pm! Immediately I wondered why so late (ahem, past my bedtime), so asked if we could push it earlier to 8pm. He had to work until 8pm. I asked if we could meet up somewhere that served alcohol. We compromised and agreed to meet at Atomic Rooster at 8:30pm. Sidenote: I clearly didn't read his profile closely enough to see that he doesn't drink (recovering alcoholic maybe?).
Neil was waiting for me outside. He was super handsome, but I was thrown off by what he was wearing (as he did say he was coming straight from work)... jeans, sweatshirt and a backpack? He almost looked like a panhandler. He explained that the Rooster was too noisy and suggested that we go to the Royal Oak. I made a reference to it as the 'Dirty Oak' (which anyone who lives downtown would understand), but poor Neil didn't get it and I think misunderstood, thinking that I was unhappy with his choice. He ordered a Pepsi and I got a beer. And then things got weird.
Case in point:
- smacking his hubba bubba gum with his mouth open
- putting his arms behind his head in the booth we were sitting at
- cracking highly offensive/politically incorrect jokes which were NOT funny
- eyeing me up and down, massaging my shoulder from across the table, holding both of my hands, asking me to touch his mosquito bite(??)
- asking me if he 'passed the interview' or if he got a strike for being a renter
- telling me how he doesn't have kids, but he sure likes to "practice" (ew) and then wanting to cheers to it
- super rude to wait staff
- making fun of me for working in the gov't
- making fun of crunchy granola hippie types who live in Centretown (says the guy who is wearing BRACELETS, brags about yoga and lives in Centretown himself!)
- could sense his huge disappointment that I wasn't artistic (he asked me this question several times)
The list goes on and on. Neil was super cocky, arrogant and all over the place. He'd ask me a question, I would go to answer, and then he would jump into another question. Was he high?!
Neil suggested we go for a walk, which I (stupidly) agreed to. Again, I am terrible at getting out of horrible dates. That should have been my cue to leave.
The bill came and Neil mumbled something about going dutch. I explained that I only had a $20 (as did he). I figured he might just offer to pay for my drink, but no. He gave his $20 to the waitress who started to give him change for the bill, but then he sharply asked her what she was doing; that he had asked her for change for a $20. She was confused (as was I)! She gives him change and then he puts down $6 and she explained that he will need to pay for the rest of the bill (obviously). He then states that the $6 is for me and then I awkwardly put down my $20. Talk about complicated and embarrassing!!! When he went to the washroom, I apologized to her. Neil made a comment as we were leaving that the waitress seemed surly.
We ended up walking to a different bar where we got one more drink and the weirdness continued. We had nothing in common. I was annoyed because I had left my bike behind when we were walking in the direction of my place. After going dutch yet again, we called it a night. We walked back toward my bike and then parted ways at one of the intersections. I sensed he lived more North of where we were walking and wanted to ditch him. I gave him a quick hug, said it was nice to meet him and to have a good night. Of course this guy wouldn't walk me to my bike late at night or care if I got home safely!
This was our text message exchange when I got home:
N: Cute. But you're one hard person to read lol
J: Sorry lol
N: I don't often sit in bars. Glad we went to that second place. I'll remember it.
I was mostly upset that I wasted my time with this weirdo instead of staying in to watch The Bachelorette.
UPDATE: Jay
Jay recently reached out to me a few times on pof... once about a month ago asking me how my summer was going and if I had been up to the cottage (I didn't respond) and then again more recently after creating a new profile (not sure why?)... he asked if he could basically have a second chance, that he still owes me a drink. I told him that the moment had passed and wished him luck.
UPDATE: Rob
Rob and I ended up going out on about 5 dates in total, including one spectacular bday dinner prepared by moi. I went to a lot of time and money to do something nice for Rob. So when I suggested a movie as our next date, I thought he would offer to pay. Nope. He asked if I wanted to get the movie tickets and he would grab the snacks.... To be honest, this turned me off. He's a DIRECTOR in the government for god's sake! It never dawned on him to perhaps pay for BOTH the movie and snack... is chivalry dead? Perhaps. After the cheap movie date, I didn't hear from Rob for a good 4 days. I could tell he had lost interest... but I had left my 'good' Tupperware at his place (ahem, leftovers from above mentioned meal) and wanted it back. I swung by to pick it up and could tell by Rob's body language that things were done. He didn't seem to really want to let me into his place - I didn't feel welcome, so I left. A few hours later, I texted him to see how he thought our dates were going and he admitted that while physically attracted to me, he didn't think we 'clicked' in conversation. I always got the impression that maybe I wasn't too 'intellectual' enough for him, not that we had deep discussions. Maybe this is why Rob is single at 44? Sigh!
Wednesday, May 20, 2015
Nick
Nick and I had been chatting as well for a while on Match before I left for Hawaii. That being said, we didn't overly text much. I chalked it up to not wanting to waste time texting if there wasn't a spark in person. We agreed to meet up upon my return. I liked that he planned the date and chose a wine bar in the Glebe that I had completely forgotten about! A great date spot.
I was a bit worried that Nick might be too nerdy for me... I guess just based on his photos and profile. And I was concerned that he looked quite different in each photo... You know how sometimes iphones will change imessages to email addresses randomly? Well, this happened in Nick's case, so I knew his last name. I immediately creeped him! I stumbled upon an article in the Globe and Mail about his personal financial investment advice. Nick seemed really smart (engineer with the Navy) and REALLY active. I was worried he might be too active!
I spotted Nick from behind when I walked through the wine bar doors. It was actually quite busy for a Thurs night! Nick got up right away and gave me a big hug which I thought was nice. I have to say, he has one of those contagious smiles. Nick was super chatty... I couldn't tell if he was maybe nervous or not. He spoke a lot about all of his activities (trail running, skate skiing, etc), but made sure to ask me about mine. He is also originally from Newfoundland, tall and skinny, and has only been in Ottawa for about a year, but had lived here for three years previously. I wasn't physically attracted to Nick. He had these crazy eyebrows and was even skinnier in person that I thought he was...
After one glass of wine, Nick got the bill so I got the sense that while polite, he wasn't into me either. Our date lasted an hour. We hugged goodbye and then Nick asked if we could do it again sometime which totally threw me off! I didn't know what to say being put on the spot, so I agreed. I never heard from him though, so I think that maybe he just said that because he didn't know what else to say when we parted. NEXT!
I was a bit worried that Nick might be too nerdy for me... I guess just based on his photos and profile. And I was concerned that he looked quite different in each photo... You know how sometimes iphones will change imessages to email addresses randomly? Well, this happened in Nick's case, so I knew his last name. I immediately creeped him! I stumbled upon an article in the Globe and Mail about his personal financial investment advice. Nick seemed really smart (engineer with the Navy) and REALLY active. I was worried he might be too active!
I spotted Nick from behind when I walked through the wine bar doors. It was actually quite busy for a Thurs night! Nick got up right away and gave me a big hug which I thought was nice. I have to say, he has one of those contagious smiles. Nick was super chatty... I couldn't tell if he was maybe nervous or not. He spoke a lot about all of his activities (trail running, skate skiing, etc), but made sure to ask me about mine. He is also originally from Newfoundland, tall and skinny, and has only been in Ottawa for about a year, but had lived here for three years previously. I wasn't physically attracted to Nick. He had these crazy eyebrows and was even skinnier in person that I thought he was...
After one glass of wine, Nick got the bill so I got the sense that while polite, he wasn't into me either. Our date lasted an hour. We hugged goodbye and then Nick asked if we could do it again sometime which totally threw me off! I didn't know what to say being put on the spot, so I agreed. I never heard from him though, so I think that maybe he just said that because he didn't know what else to say when we parted. NEXT!
The other Rob
...not to be confused with C's date... but I too went on a date recently with a Rob.
We had initially chatted on Tinder, but I would often see him on all of the other dating sites too. Right off the bat, he asked if I wanted kids. He doesn't, so wanted to put that out there right away. I appreciated him being upfront. I explained that yes, I thought it was a dealbreaker and he completely understood and we unmatched each other. But then I thought about it some more and didn't want to have any regrets. What's the harm in going on a date? Sure, I always saw myself having kids, but what's more important to me is to find a great life partner. Someone who is a good match for me.
I joined match.com not too long ago (side note: my ex popped up as one of my matches recently... I was shocked that he forked over money to join!), and sure enough, Rob popped up as one of my matches. I decided to contact him and explain that I had given it some thought and asked if he would like to meet up (he did!). I should also explain that I knew Rob and I had a mutual Facebook friend (thank you Tinder!). Granted she was more of an acquaintance to me, but I have several friends who work with her. Turns out, he is besties with her hubby. My friend Laura texted said mutual friend to get the scoop on Rob before we met up. All that she revealed was that he is a super nice guy who tends to date "a lot" (what does that even mean, really?), but she thinks it's because he's looking for THE ONE. We were supposed to meet up before I left on my trip to Hawaii, but it just didn't work out. He told me to add him to facebook so that he could check out my vacation pics, so I did. And then C contacted me! Turns out, she knows who Rob is as well as some of his friends (I think she dated one of them). She referred to Rob as her 'nemesis' which scared the crap out of me, but not for anything bad that he had done (long story).
We met up at a pub near me on a Sunday night for drinks. I felt much more comfortable going into the date knowing that a friend of a friend knows him well. Rob is 7 years older than me, originally from Newfoundland, around the same height, bit of a dad bod but athletic, smart and fairly successful (Director in the gov't). He rents a place downtown but he bought the house his parents live in back home. I discovered that his sister passed away recently and he has two teenage nieces who he is very close with back home. His mom has Alzheimer's. I was impressed to hear that he tackled learning how to speak French fluently by spending several years living in Quebec City before moving to Ottawa. Like me, Rob is a very social guy - he seems to have lots of good friends and is always checking out cool events. After some great conversation, he paid for our drinks and held my umbrella as I walked home in the rain.
We have since gone on a few other dates! He's a really sweet, attentive guy and there seems to be physical chemistry which is nice.
We had initially chatted on Tinder, but I would often see him on all of the other dating sites too. Right off the bat, he asked if I wanted kids. He doesn't, so wanted to put that out there right away. I appreciated him being upfront. I explained that yes, I thought it was a dealbreaker and he completely understood and we unmatched each other. But then I thought about it some more and didn't want to have any regrets. What's the harm in going on a date? Sure, I always saw myself having kids, but what's more important to me is to find a great life partner. Someone who is a good match for me.
I joined match.com not too long ago (side note: my ex popped up as one of my matches recently... I was shocked that he forked over money to join!), and sure enough, Rob popped up as one of my matches. I decided to contact him and explain that I had given it some thought and asked if he would like to meet up (he did!). I should also explain that I knew Rob and I had a mutual Facebook friend (thank you Tinder!). Granted she was more of an acquaintance to me, but I have several friends who work with her. Turns out, he is besties with her hubby. My friend Laura texted said mutual friend to get the scoop on Rob before we met up. All that she revealed was that he is a super nice guy who tends to date "a lot" (what does that even mean, really?), but she thinks it's because he's looking for THE ONE. We were supposed to meet up before I left on my trip to Hawaii, but it just didn't work out. He told me to add him to facebook so that he could check out my vacation pics, so I did. And then C contacted me! Turns out, she knows who Rob is as well as some of his friends (I think she dated one of them). She referred to Rob as her 'nemesis' which scared the crap out of me, but not for anything bad that he had done (long story).
We met up at a pub near me on a Sunday night for drinks. I felt much more comfortable going into the date knowing that a friend of a friend knows him well. Rob is 7 years older than me, originally from Newfoundland, around the same height, bit of a dad bod but athletic, smart and fairly successful (Director in the gov't). He rents a place downtown but he bought the house his parents live in back home. I discovered that his sister passed away recently and he has two teenage nieces who he is very close with back home. His mom has Alzheimer's. I was impressed to hear that he tackled learning how to speak French fluently by spending several years living in Quebec City before moving to Ottawa. Like me, Rob is a very social guy - he seems to have lots of good friends and is always checking out cool events. After some great conversation, he paid for our drinks and held my umbrella as I walked home in the rain.
We have since gone on a few other dates! He's a really sweet, attentive guy and there seems to be physical chemistry which is nice.
Tuesday, April 28, 2015
Rob
I was pretty excited to match with Rob because he was really handsome and a bit older. He messaged me and asked me to lunch but I couldn't make it, and then he couldn't make my suggestion. I sent him my number and told him to get in touch.
I heard from him on Sunday, and he ended up asking me to go for a drink that night. Normally I'd be in pyjamas but I really wanted to meet this guy. He asked where I lived and asked if I had any ideas on where to go. I suggested my local pub (which is a great combination of low-key and buzzy) and he agreed.
I saw him right away when I walked in, and he looked just like his picture (which a friend has described as looking like a "stock photo") and I was very pleased. We hadn't messaged much beforehand so I knew almost nothing about him, other than that he has a son which he'd mentioned when we were trying to make one of our previous plans. I learned about his current job and his previous job as a professor. Long story short, he is very successful and well rounded.
The conversation flowed really well and we immediately found things in common. We talked easily for about an hour when I realized another guy I dated last summer was sitting at the bar across from us! I know it's bad but I soooo hope he saw me on a date with this gorgeous man.
Nearing the end of the date Rob took my hand under the pretense of looking at my ring. It was a pretty sweet move and I was swooning. We finished our drinks and headed out. His car was parked toward my house and he offered to walk me home. When we got there, we both leaned in for a kiss which was very nice. He sort of looked like he was hoping I would ask him up but that's not something I would normally do, especially when I am really interested in a guy! I suggested we do it again and he seemed amenamble. I waited for about an hour to see if he'd text when he got home and finally I just sent a message saying it was great to meet him and that I hoped he got home ok.
He texted back the next morning saying the pleasure was his. We texted a few times during the day, and in the evening he made a cheeky joke about inviting himself over if he didn't already have plans. I replied saying maybe next time. We'll see what happens next. Fingers crossed!
I heard from him on Sunday, and he ended up asking me to go for a drink that night. Normally I'd be in pyjamas but I really wanted to meet this guy. He asked where I lived and asked if I had any ideas on where to go. I suggested my local pub (which is a great combination of low-key and buzzy) and he agreed.
I saw him right away when I walked in, and he looked just like his picture (which a friend has described as looking like a "stock photo") and I was very pleased. We hadn't messaged much beforehand so I knew almost nothing about him, other than that he has a son which he'd mentioned when we were trying to make one of our previous plans. I learned about his current job and his previous job as a professor. Long story short, he is very successful and well rounded.
The conversation flowed really well and we immediately found things in common. We talked easily for about an hour when I realized another guy I dated last summer was sitting at the bar across from us! I know it's bad but I soooo hope he saw me on a date with this gorgeous man.
Nearing the end of the date Rob took my hand under the pretense of looking at my ring. It was a pretty sweet move and I was swooning. We finished our drinks and headed out. His car was parked toward my house and he offered to walk me home. When we got there, we both leaned in for a kiss which was very nice. He sort of looked like he was hoping I would ask him up but that's not something I would normally do, especially when I am really interested in a guy! I suggested we do it again and he seemed amenamble. I waited for about an hour to see if he'd text when he got home and finally I just sent a message saying it was great to meet him and that I hoped he got home ok.
He texted back the next morning saying the pleasure was his. We texted a few times during the day, and in the evening he made a cheeky joke about inviting himself over if he didn't already have plans. I replied saying maybe next time. We'll see what happens next. Fingers crossed!
Monday, April 27, 2015
Matt
It's been a while since I've updated...I don't have too much to report right now but I do have a weird lingering situation. I was really motivated to try a new site in January (OK Cupid) and I went on 4 dates in about 4 weeks. Matt, who was the 4th guy I met up with, was definitely the best.
He had recently moved here from the UK and looked better than his pics (which were already cute). I am a sucker for a Brit and so I was really intrigued as to what led him to move here. Turns out his work wanted to open a new office and he said he didn't have much tying him down back home so he volunteered. He'd never even been anywhere in North America before landing in Toronto! He came up to meet me in my neighbourhood in a bitter storm which I really appreciated. We got along really well and I enjoyed chatting with him. Maybe I was rating him higher in my mind because I had not really felt a connection with the other guys, but I thought he was having a good time too. When we left, I said I'd walk him towards the subway as he was unfamiliar with the area, but he seemed really weird about it. I assumed he didn't want to look like he needed help so I just did it, but he got REALLY very awkward about it. He finally was like "I've got it from here" (spoiler alert: he didn't) and I backed off. I sort of forced him to give me a hug and that was that. I didn't hear from him that night. I texted him the next morning to see if he was ok and he replied quickly but the texting died off pretty fast.
The next week he texted me asking whether the gallery where I volunteer was free any night. I told him it was, and I volunteer on that night. He said he'd be at the gallery, but I never saw him. I texted him the next day asking if he'd been at the gallery and he said he had in fact been there. Huh?? Again, the texting died off.
The next day was a Friday, so after a few drinks I texted him asking whether he really just wanted to know whether the gallery was free, or did he want to go out again? He laughed it off and said he wasn't trying to be obtuse and he did want to meet up. We went out the next week and again, had a great time. I felt like he was even implying he wanted to stay longer (I had to work really early in the morning). Then, when we were leaving, again he sort of just bolted off. Not even a hug this time. Huh? Were we just going out as friends? What was happening?!
Again, a few weeks after that, I sent him a random text. Again, texts go back and forth. I was going away the next week on vacation but we agreed to go out when I got back. I got back, made two separate suggestions a few days apart, both of which he turned down (to be fair, they were both fairly last minute) and he didn't make any counter suggestions. We agreed we were both free the next week...which was 2 weeks ago. So I guess another one bites the dust! Honestly probably for the best though. Not a good sign when a guy doesn't even want to hug you goodbye!
He had recently moved here from the UK and looked better than his pics (which were already cute). I am a sucker for a Brit and so I was really intrigued as to what led him to move here. Turns out his work wanted to open a new office and he said he didn't have much tying him down back home so he volunteered. He'd never even been anywhere in North America before landing in Toronto! He came up to meet me in my neighbourhood in a bitter storm which I really appreciated. We got along really well and I enjoyed chatting with him. Maybe I was rating him higher in my mind because I had not really felt a connection with the other guys, but I thought he was having a good time too. When we left, I said I'd walk him towards the subway as he was unfamiliar with the area, but he seemed really weird about it. I assumed he didn't want to look like he needed help so I just did it, but he got REALLY very awkward about it. He finally was like "I've got it from here" (spoiler alert: he didn't) and I backed off. I sort of forced him to give me a hug and that was that. I didn't hear from him that night. I texted him the next morning to see if he was ok and he replied quickly but the texting died off pretty fast.
The next week he texted me asking whether the gallery where I volunteer was free any night. I told him it was, and I volunteer on that night. He said he'd be at the gallery, but I never saw him. I texted him the next day asking if he'd been at the gallery and he said he had in fact been there. Huh?? Again, the texting died off.
The next day was a Friday, so after a few drinks I texted him asking whether he really just wanted to know whether the gallery was free, or did he want to go out again? He laughed it off and said he wasn't trying to be obtuse and he did want to meet up. We went out the next week and again, had a great time. I felt like he was even implying he wanted to stay longer (I had to work really early in the morning). Then, when we were leaving, again he sort of just bolted off. Not even a hug this time. Huh? Were we just going out as friends? What was happening?!
Again, a few weeks after that, I sent him a random text. Again, texts go back and forth. I was going away the next week on vacation but we agreed to go out when I got back. I got back, made two separate suggestions a few days apart, both of which he turned down (to be fair, they were both fairly last minute) and he didn't make any counter suggestions. We agreed we were both free the next week...which was 2 weeks ago. So I guess another one bites the dust! Honestly probably for the best though. Not a good sign when a guy doesn't even want to hug you goodbye!
Tuesday, April 14, 2015
Speed Dating
Speed Dating
I attended a charity speed dating event at Mill St last night that was organized by the Ottawa Gala. This was maybe the third time I've tried speed dating. In the past, it has always been enjoyable, but nothing has really come of it. Third time's a charm? Not really. I met up with two female friends for drinks beforehand. We were all a bit nervous and didn't know what to expect. The result was similar to past events... a lot of extremely nerdy and socially awkward dudes. I actually felt badly for a few of them since they were clearly struggling. If you think about it though, what guy agrees to go speed dating? Hmmm. I think this will be the last time I sign up for an event like that! The kicker was that they screwed up my results. Ah well, at least it was for charity!
UPDATE: Jay
After a week of constant texting back and forth and even chatting on the phone for two hours the night before our second date, Jay bailed on me. I don't know why it surprised me after the luck I've been having lately, but it did. Especially since when I had first started chatting with Jay on pof, I had explained that I was close to deleting my profile and he convinced me not to. In the end, he turned out to be a flaky dude himself, proving my point! Apparently, he was having anxiety being single again and didn't feel like "trying" all of the time when it came to dating. I wished him luck and told him that I hope he finds what he's looking for. Clearly, he's not quite ready to be jumping in the dating pool... or maybe he is, but it's not with me. I am starting to feel like there must be something wrong with me that this keeps happening.
I attended a charity speed dating event at Mill St last night that was organized by the Ottawa Gala. This was maybe the third time I've tried speed dating. In the past, it has always been enjoyable, but nothing has really come of it. Third time's a charm? Not really. I met up with two female friends for drinks beforehand. We were all a bit nervous and didn't know what to expect. The result was similar to past events... a lot of extremely nerdy and socially awkward dudes. I actually felt badly for a few of them since they were clearly struggling. If you think about it though, what guy agrees to go speed dating? Hmmm. I think this will be the last time I sign up for an event like that! The kicker was that they screwed up my results. Ah well, at least it was for charity!
UPDATE: Jay
After a week of constant texting back and forth and even chatting on the phone for two hours the night before our second date, Jay bailed on me. I don't know why it surprised me after the luck I've been having lately, but it did. Especially since when I had first started chatting with Jay on pof, I had explained that I was close to deleting my profile and he convinced me not to. In the end, he turned out to be a flaky dude himself, proving my point! Apparently, he was having anxiety being single again and didn't feel like "trying" all of the time when it came to dating. I wished him luck and told him that I hope he finds what he's looking for. Clearly, he's not quite ready to be jumping in the dating pool... or maybe he is, but it's not with me. I am starting to feel like there must be something wrong with me that this keeps happening.
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