I was recently set up with this dude through mutual friends. We went out twice and neither time did he offer me a ride to/from our meeting spot. My date even commented on just how "cold out" it was, as I struggled to take off my many winter layers when I entered the restaurant. I thought that was weird, since he was driving and I'm clearly en route. I have guy friends who always make a point of making sure that I make it home safely or offer up transportation. It goes without saying. I'm a girl living downtown without a car. It's cold and dark out.
I'm looking for someone who is more of a gentleman about things like that.... not that I'm shallow enough to hold that one little thing against him, but it's a red flag. I may not even take him up on the offer, but at least he's OFFERED. And concerned for my safety. That's important to me.
Saturday, December 19, 2009
Friday, December 11, 2009
What's Your Story?
What are your interests? Tough one, huh. Imagine having to answer that question 14 times! Enter speed dating.
I decided to check out a speed dating event with a friend. As it turns out, two of her friends were going to the same event as us. The event was held in a small, martini bar in the market. The tables were set up very close to one another, so at times, it felt as though we were all on the same date. It worked out nicely for me though, because my friend was warming them up for me with her jokes!
This is going to sound mean, but an overwhelming observation I have been able to make over the past few years: the selection of male candidates doesn't seem on par with the quality of female candidates (how's that for being PC!). Most guys there were short (now I understand why a specific "tall men" speed dating event exists!) and kinda nerdy. I would say that 95% of them were in the IT field. Absolutely nothing wrong with being smart, but I felt as though some were nerdier (read: more socially awkward) than others.
The highlights:
Our dates were 8 minutes in length. In some cases, 8 minutes seemed very short and I'd just be getting into a good conversation and then...NEXT! In other cases, 8 minutes was WAY WAY WAY too long.
One guy could barely speak English and I kept having to ask him to repeat himself. He worked for the Japanese Embassy. He also kept telling "jokes", but then not laughing, so I never knew if he was actually making a joke... until moments later, he'd laugh at his own jokes. He also completely shot down the fact that I work for the federal government: "Ohhhh so that must mean that you don't actually work". Huh? He went on to explain that I must be able to come and go as I please and if it's snowing, raining, etc outside, I must just stay home. Wow. Judgy Wudgy! And, clearly not trying to impress me whatsoever.
Then there are the guys who you wouldn't want to actually date, but be their BFF. This was the case for Bryan and Arthur. They were hi-larious and so much fun, but not really my type. With Bryan, we swapped notes on the competition, and left our table to sit at the bar for our date (thank you free drinks!). One of the girls with us commented afterwards that it's too bad there's no "maybe" option. So true. I marked these two guys down as a "yes", but it would have to be clear that I would be interested in hanging out as friends only... One fellow pointed out that even if there is no romantic connection, you never know if that person can lead you to another person, etc, etc as it is so hard to meet new people. Good point!
There were a few oddballs. Richard, the theatre major extraordinaire who made his own aromatherapy products (really, you're bragging about this?!) and wore an ugly sweater. Howard, whose opening line (to everyone, apparently) was "So, what's your story?". Ugh! He was also pretty into himself and went on and on about all of the volunteering he does and how much he loves his big screen TV. One guy told me that "going to the movies" does not classify as an activity or interest of mine...? Thanks for the clarification. Also, I would go as far as to guess that there were a handful of guys at the event who are potentially questioning their sexuality. My gaydar never lies. Another funny thing that happened: one guy wasn't even shy about hiding the notes he was taking...right in front of me! All he wrote down was a dollar sign beside my name. WTF does that even mean!?
Realistically, there were only two individuals who I would be open to going on a real date with. One is a dude with a thick Ukranian accent, who seemed funny and cute. Bonus: nice teeth. One guy had the worst teeth I have ever seen and I could NOT stop staring (think Austin Powers and moles). For the full 8 minutes, I kept thinking "look at his eyes, damnit!".
The burning question I wanted to know from all of my dates was: "How did you find out about this event?". I feel as though chicks are probably more inclined to sign up for speed dating events than dudes. That being said, I was surprised that there were actually two extra guys at the event, so they always had to sit out as we rotated. Many of them said that a (girl) friend of theirs told them about the event, or they just googled it themselves.
I should be receiving my matches (if I have any!) this afternoon. Even if nothing comes of it, I can chalk it up to research for my blog!
I decided to check out a speed dating event with a friend. As it turns out, two of her friends were going to the same event as us. The event was held in a small, martini bar in the market. The tables were set up very close to one another, so at times, it felt as though we were all on the same date. It worked out nicely for me though, because my friend was warming them up for me with her jokes!
This is going to sound mean, but an overwhelming observation I have been able to make over the past few years: the selection of male candidates doesn't seem on par with the quality of female candidates (how's that for being PC!). Most guys there were short (now I understand why a specific "tall men" speed dating event exists!) and kinda nerdy. I would say that 95% of them were in the IT field. Absolutely nothing wrong with being smart, but I felt as though some were nerdier (read: more socially awkward) than others.
The highlights:
Our dates were 8 minutes in length. In some cases, 8 minutes seemed very short and I'd just be getting into a good conversation and then...NEXT! In other cases, 8 minutes was WAY WAY WAY too long.
One guy could barely speak English and I kept having to ask him to repeat himself. He worked for the Japanese Embassy. He also kept telling "jokes", but then not laughing, so I never knew if he was actually making a joke... until moments later, he'd laugh at his own jokes. He also completely shot down the fact that I work for the federal government: "Ohhhh so that must mean that you don't actually work". Huh? He went on to explain that I must be able to come and go as I please and if it's snowing, raining, etc outside, I must just stay home. Wow. Judgy Wudgy! And, clearly not trying to impress me whatsoever.
Then there are the guys who you wouldn't want to actually date, but be their BFF. This was the case for Bryan and Arthur. They were hi-larious and so much fun, but not really my type. With Bryan, we swapped notes on the competition, and left our table to sit at the bar for our date (thank you free drinks!). One of the girls with us commented afterwards that it's too bad there's no "maybe" option. So true. I marked these two guys down as a "yes", but it would have to be clear that I would be interested in hanging out as friends only... One fellow pointed out that even if there is no romantic connection, you never know if that person can lead you to another person, etc, etc as it is so hard to meet new people. Good point!
There were a few oddballs. Richard, the theatre major extraordinaire who made his own aromatherapy products (really, you're bragging about this?!) and wore an ugly sweater. Howard, whose opening line (to everyone, apparently) was "So, what's your story?". Ugh! He was also pretty into himself and went on and on about all of the volunteering he does and how much he loves his big screen TV. One guy told me that "going to the movies" does not classify as an activity or interest of mine...? Thanks for the clarification. Also, I would go as far as to guess that there were a handful of guys at the event who are potentially questioning their sexuality. My gaydar never lies. Another funny thing that happened: one guy wasn't even shy about hiding the notes he was taking...right in front of me! All he wrote down was a dollar sign beside my name. WTF does that even mean!?
Realistically, there were only two individuals who I would be open to going on a real date with. One is a dude with a thick Ukranian accent, who seemed funny and cute. Bonus: nice teeth. One guy had the worst teeth I have ever seen and I could NOT stop staring (think Austin Powers and moles). For the full 8 minutes, I kept thinking "look at his eyes, damnit!".
The burning question I wanted to know from all of my dates was: "How did you find out about this event?". I feel as though chicks are probably more inclined to sign up for speed dating events than dudes. That being said, I was surprised that there were actually two extra guys at the event, so they always had to sit out as we rotated. Many of them said that a (girl) friend of theirs told them about the event, or they just googled it themselves.
I should be receiving my matches (if I have any!) this afternoon. Even if nothing comes of it, I can chalk it up to research for my blog!
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Round Two: Lederhosen
I've been told that I should provide an update on my second date with Adam. The truth is, there isn't much to write about. I didn't feel any sort of connection with him while playing indoor glow-in-the-dark mini putt. While I find him funny, that's kind of where the attraction ends. He suggested we hang out a bit longer on our date, so we opted for drinks and nachos (again). The conversation wasn't as stimulating the second time around, and I was left feeling disappointed. It's making me question my judgement on the first date... how did I think it went SO well?
Adam told me about a time where he had gone on a first date with someone when he was extremely hungover and actually nodded off on their date (a movie)! Why would he tell me that story? Not exactly painting him in a good light.
Annoying: I paid for the golf fees and thought he would pick up the tab for the drinks/nachos so that we could call it even. Well, he paid for the nachos minus my drink! Really? Ha.
Up next: Speed Dating!
Adam told me about a time where he had gone on a first date with someone when he was extremely hungover and actually nodded off on their date (a movie)! Why would he tell me that story? Not exactly painting him in a good light.
Annoying: I paid for the golf fees and thought he would pick up the tab for the drinks/nachos so that we could call it even. Well, he paid for the nachos minus my drink! Really? Ha.
Up next: Speed Dating!
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Lederhosen
What first drew me to Adam was the picture he posted of himself in authentic Lederhosen at the real Oktoberfest in Munich. I had just participated in the MUCH smaller-scale, Canadian version so I knew we would have something to talk about. Turns out, he has a great Lederhosen story to boot! I also knew this meant he has a good sense of humour.
We met up for drinks at a pub on a gorgeous, mild night. So mild, that we were able to sit outside on the patio for most of the night! A rare thing in Ottawa at this time of year. I immediately felt comfortable chatting with Adam - he is funny, interesting and we have a lot in common. Now when I say I'm looking for someone with "an edge", I'm not necessarily referring to a dude with shaggy longish red hair in a metal band (such is the case with Adam), but he actually seems really gentle...and he knows that he needs to cut his hair SOON. Again, not as tall as his profile claims him to be, but tall enough.
I liked that he had interesting stuff to talk about. His dad is obsessed with playing the accordian. His mom is an artist. His brother lives in Denmark. He's traveled to China. He throws a mean theme party. He wears Lederhosen every Halloween. He knows a lot about music.
After 4 hours together, we called it a night. He told me to give him a call after I get back from a business trip. I think I just might do that. I would love to see him again!
We met up for drinks at a pub on a gorgeous, mild night. So mild, that we were able to sit outside on the patio for most of the night! A rare thing in Ottawa at this time of year. I immediately felt comfortable chatting with Adam - he is funny, interesting and we have a lot in common. Now when I say I'm looking for someone with "an edge", I'm not necessarily referring to a dude with shaggy longish red hair in a metal band (such is the case with Adam), but he actually seems really gentle...and he knows that he needs to cut his hair SOON. Again, not as tall as his profile claims him to be, but tall enough.
I liked that he had interesting stuff to talk about. His dad is obsessed with playing the accordian. His mom is an artist. His brother lives in Denmark. He's traveled to China. He throws a mean theme party. He wears Lederhosen every Halloween. He knows a lot about music.
After 4 hours together, we called it a night. He told me to give him a call after I get back from a business trip. I think I just might do that. I would love to see him again!
Friday, October 9, 2009
Don
Don and I had been chatting since this summer. Upon closer inspection of his profile, I quickly realized that he wasn't actually currently living in Ottawa, but finishing up his thesis out East. My first reaction was not to become penpals, because then my expectations would be heightened. So we would send each other the odd email from time to time. He definitely wins the best email award. His emails were always very funny, witty and charming. He was supposed to roll back into Otown in early September, but things got pushed back to October. I was starting to wonder if I would ever meet Don!
We met up last night at a pub and had a few drinks. Anyone who knows me, knows that I am way more into personality than appearance. And yet, there was something about Don's appearance that I couldn't quite put my finger on. Sure he was balding and had salt n' peppa hair, but what I couldn't stop staring at was the hoop earring in his left ear. It totally threw me off! He was also MUCH skinnier than in his online photos. But then he would flash that amazing, infectious smile of his and I'd forget about the skinny bald pierced dude sitting across the table from me ;) While his emails were hilarious, they didn't 100% translate into the real deal...
I'm a pretty good judge of character (at least I'd like to think so). I'll be honest with you, I thought he might be gay. He made a point of mentioning past girlfriends (overcompensating?) several times. He's definitely interesting and smart... and we have things in common! I just can't shake the gay vibe (I'm 2 for 2 now!).
Best questions asked on the date: "What's your favourite season?" and "So, how was your upbringing/childhood?".
We met up last night at a pub and had a few drinks. Anyone who knows me, knows that I am way more into personality than appearance. And yet, there was something about Don's appearance that I couldn't quite put my finger on. Sure he was balding and had salt n' peppa hair, but what I couldn't stop staring at was the hoop earring in his left ear. It totally threw me off! He was also MUCH skinnier than in his online photos. But then he would flash that amazing, infectious smile of his and I'd forget about the skinny bald pierced dude sitting across the table from me ;) While his emails were hilarious, they didn't 100% translate into the real deal...
I'm a pretty good judge of character (at least I'd like to think so). I'll be honest with you, I thought he might be gay. He made a point of mentioning past girlfriends (overcompensating?) several times. He's definitely interesting and smart... and we have things in common! I just can't shake the gay vibe (I'm 2 for 2 now!).
Best questions asked on the date: "What's your favourite season?" and "So, how was your upbringing/childhood?".
Monday, October 5, 2009
How do you typically end a bad date?
The results are in!
16% of you hug it out;
16% of you agree to go on a second date; and
66% of you run away.
Ouch!
16% of you hug it out;
16% of you agree to go on a second date; and
66% of you run away.
Ouch!
Six sins of online dating
A friend of mine (thanks Jason!) gave me the link to this article. Check it out! May b we r comitten one of theze faux pas...
p.s. some of you have inquired about how to be kept in the blog loop. There should be a link at the top of the page that says "follow blog"!
p.s. some of you have inquired about how to be kept in the blog loop. There should be a link at the top of the page that says "follow blog"!
Monday, September 28, 2009
Dan
There is episode on Seinfeld where Jerry goes on a date with a woman who looks completely different in different lighting. The Two Faced Date. I kind of experienced the same thing.
The first time I met Dan was in a dimly lit bar on a dark, rainy night. We hit it off, had a few (ok, several) drinks and agreed to meet up again. Well, I met him outside of the Art Gallery one sunny afternoon and he looked completely different to me! In particular, his teeth. It was like I was going on a date with a completely different person. Him?
Also, smoking is kind of a dealbreaker for me! Somehow I forgot about that.
The first time I met Dan was in a dimly lit bar on a dark, rainy night. We hit it off, had a few (ok, several) drinks and agreed to meet up again. Well, I met him outside of the Art Gallery one sunny afternoon and he looked completely different to me! In particular, his teeth. It was like I was going on a date with a completely different person. Him?
Also, smoking is kind of a dealbreaker for me! Somehow I forgot about that.
Dating in the Dark
Have you seen this show? It's the latest reality show from ABC where couples live in the same house and date each other in complete darkness. It's weird. One of the girls actually said: "I hope he doesn't look like Shrek!". Sigh.
Book Alert: Jennifer Johnson is Sick of Being Single
An excerpt: Nobody tells the truth. Everything means something else. I've learned what a few things really mean the hard way and I've started my own dating profile-to-English translation phrase-book.HANDY AROUND THE HOUSE
- He will not call a plumber under any circumstance. Ever.
GOOD WITH MONEY
- He's a cheap bastard and will make you go Dutch. Forever.
FAMILY MAN
- He's married.
LOVES KIDS
- He has kids and no daycare provider.
MATURE MAN
- He's at least fifty, and looks at least sixty-five.
YOUNG AT HEART
- He's trolling for preteen.
CASUAL GUY
- He wears dirty sweatpants out to dinner.
METROSEXUAL
- He's hoping if he dates one more girl, he won't be gay. Doesn't matter. He's gay.
LOVES MOVIES
- Loves porn.
GOOD PERSONALITY
- He's fat.
GREAT SENSE OF HUMOR
- He's fat and desperate. Will laugh at anything you say.
OUTDOORSY
- He pees in the sink.
READY TO SETTLE DOWN
- He's just been dumped.
LIKES TO HAVE A GOOD TIME
- He gets drunk. A lot.
LOTS OF FUN AT PARTIES
- He makes an ass of himself in public.
A GREAT DANCER
- He thinks he's a great dancer. He's not.
NOT OVERLY EMOTIONAL
- He's a sociopath.
SELDOM DATES
- Seldom gets second dates.
UNDERSTANDS WOMEN
- He's been married and divorced four times.
Speed Dating
8 minutes, 8 guys, 8 lightning round conversations! Speed dating is so much fun. I've only done it twice, but both times I thoroughly enjoyed myself even if I was left without a match. Don't you wish all really bad dates could be over in 8 minutes? Think about it.
Tips:
1). Don't go alone. Bring a friend with you. If it's a female friend, make sure you have polar opposite taste in men. What if you both end up wanting to date the same guy? What if she gets him and you don't? How are you going to feel?
2). Have fun!! Relax, don't take it too seriously.
3). Beware of the creepy guy talking to your chest.
Tips:
1). Don't go alone. Bring a friend with you. If it's a female friend, make sure you have polar opposite taste in men. What if you both end up wanting to date the same guy? What if she gets him and you don't? How are you going to feel?
2). Have fun!! Relax, don't take it too seriously.
3). Beware of the creepy guy talking to your chest.
Dog Park Guy
Who knew that the dog park is worse than Maxwells on a Saturday night? It's a meat market. I had no idea. I've never owned a dog myself, therefore I have never been able to tap into this unexplored resource.
Ahhh Dog Park Guy. So adorable. This was an interesting scenario because I had met him briefly at a party in Tremblant and then thought, that's it. Never to be seen again. Then a friend of mine saw some photos from said party, and divulged that she had in fact met him at the dog park the other day. What a coincidence! Fate, perhaps?
About a month later, she bumped into him again, told him about me, and got his phone number and gave it to me. Ummm can you say best wingwoman ever? She did all of the dirty work. Now I just had to call him. It wasn't easy, but I did it. He seemed very easy to talk to and friendly. However, he didn't remember me from the party. And yet, he suggested we meet up for coffee/drinks sometime. I called him up later in the week to formulate plans (I'm a ridic planner) and we settled on brunch on Saturday.
To make a long story short, I put in a lot of effort and time to make these arrangements, only to be blown off (by text!) the morning of our supposed date. That day wasn't going to work for him, but if I wanted to, I could tag along with him on his dog walk early the following morning. No thanks, I thought. Clearly he was not very interested or curious enough to want to go out on a proper date. What a dog! I couldn't feel too hurt though, because I really knew nothing about him.
What are your thoughts on the "brunch date"? I want to know.
Ahhh Dog Park Guy. So adorable. This was an interesting scenario because I had met him briefly at a party in Tremblant and then thought, that's it. Never to be seen again. Then a friend of mine saw some photos from said party, and divulged that she had in fact met him at the dog park the other day. What a coincidence! Fate, perhaps?
About a month later, she bumped into him again, told him about me, and got his phone number and gave it to me. Ummm can you say best wingwoman ever? She did all of the dirty work. Now I just had to call him. It wasn't easy, but I did it. He seemed very easy to talk to and friendly. However, he didn't remember me from the party. And yet, he suggested we meet up for coffee/drinks sometime. I called him up later in the week to formulate plans (I'm a ridic planner) and we settled on brunch on Saturday.
To make a long story short, I put in a lot of effort and time to make these arrangements, only to be blown off (by text!) the morning of our supposed date. That day wasn't going to work for him, but if I wanted to, I could tag along with him on his dog walk early the following morning. No thanks, I thought. Clearly he was not very interested or curious enough to want to go out on a proper date. What a dog! I couldn't feel too hurt though, because I really knew nothing about him.
What are your thoughts on the "brunch date"? I want to know.
Ask him out!
If I relied on guys to make a move and ask me out, I would perpetually be single. Seriously. It's unheard of in this city. I went through a phase where I would just ask guys out... and it worked! I would land myself a date.
I even asked out this guy who worked at a Record Store on my street. I would be in there all the time, buying CDs I didn't need, checking out the cute RS boy. Finally, one day, I mustered up the courage (sober, I might add) to ask him out for coffee. He looked at me like I had just killed his puppy. Total shock and disbelief.
I think I had built up RS boy in my head to be this amazingly funny, super cool dude. I put him on a pedestal. When we later met up for coffee, he was pretty boring (and didn't want to talk about music!?). But I was SO proud of myself for what I had accomplished. The old me would never have even entertained the idea. That took balls, no?
Special note: Don't ask someone out who works at a clothing store, restaurant, etc that you frequent and enjoy visiting. You will never be able to show your face there again. Ever. Luckily for me, the record store has since shut down, RS boy has moved to Toronto and I am able to walk down my street again.
I even asked out this guy who worked at a Record Store on my street. I would be in there all the time, buying CDs I didn't need, checking out the cute RS boy. Finally, one day, I mustered up the courage (sober, I might add) to ask him out for coffee. He looked at me like I had just killed his puppy. Total shock and disbelief.
I think I had built up RS boy in my head to be this amazingly funny, super cool dude. I put him on a pedestal. When we later met up for coffee, he was pretty boring (and didn't want to talk about music!?). But I was SO proud of myself for what I had accomplished. The old me would never have even entertained the idea. That took balls, no?
Special note: Don't ask someone out who works at a clothing store, restaurant, etc that you frequent and enjoy visiting. You will never be able to show your face there again. Ever. Luckily for me, the record store has since shut down, RS boy has moved to Toronto and I am able to walk down my street again.
Welcome to the World of Online Dating
I never thought I would try online dating. I hemmed and hawed for months before FINALLY creating a profile for myself one night with a friend (and a bottle of wine). The concept seemed so foreign to me. In the beginning, I would "send a smile" or message various singles, but never really focus so much on actually meeting up in person. Then one day, a friend asked me: "Soooo why exactly are you on there then?". Bah! Totally called out. It's true, I'm looking for a date, not a penpal.
The truth is, online dating can be fun IF you make it fun. It's a good social experiment. It forces you to interact and converse with people you would never have otherwise met living in the same city. Trust me, I was mega shy growing up so this is good practice. What do you have to lose? Sure, it's scary - putting yourself out there like that. But it's hard to meet new people (how many times have you heard that?) and the ratio of girls to guys in Ottawa is something like 6:1.
BOOM BOOM POW
The truth is, online dating can be fun IF you make it fun. It's a good social experiment. It forces you to interact and converse with people you would never have otherwise met living in the same city. Trust me, I was mega shy growing up so this is good practice. What do you have to lose? Sure, it's scary - putting yourself out there like that. But it's hard to meet new people (how many times have you heard that?) and the ratio of girls to guys in Ottawa is something like 6:1.
BOOM BOOM POW
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Tim
Attractive, reserved, self-proclaimed retired hippie, Tim intrigued me. He had stories of hitchhiking in Australia. He played in 2937429374 bands. I was his first online date. We sat out on the patio for hours talking and laughing.
I thought it went really well. Wrong! He told me he would call me and I never heard from him again.
Zing!
I thought it went really well. Wrong! He told me he would call me and I never heard from him again.
Zing!
Jamie
Ahhhh Jamie. An overly talkative, possibly metrosexual dude who used humour as a defense mechanism to cover up his many, many insecurities. I could see us being friends, but nothing more.
I totally blew him off, and then later bumped into him at Bluesfest. I tried to avoid eye contact with him but he actually came up to me and started talking. It was awkward. I couldn't tell if he was genuinely happy to see me or if he was still pissed off that I never responded to his email to go out on a second date. He also contacted me again later to say that he liked my updated pics. Creepy? Clearly this guy is keeping tabs on me.
I totally blew him off, and then later bumped into him at Bluesfest. I tried to avoid eye contact with him but he actually came up to me and started talking. It was awkward. I couldn't tell if he was genuinely happy to see me or if he was still pissed off that I never responded to his email to go out on a second date. He also contacted me again later to say that he liked my updated pics. Creepy? Clearly this guy is keeping tabs on me.
Craig
My first ever online dating experience! It was a pleasant one. Enough so, that I gave Craig a second try. I remember he was late and didn't really apologize. Also, he was trying really hard to impress me with his line of work. I was not getting a romantic vibe at all, and was upset that the dessert spot we were dining at was all out of Pecan Pie.
It was a letdown on all accounts.
It was a letdown on all accounts.
Garth
The lunch date. A perfect idea for a first date. Why? IRREGARDLESS, I gots to eat. If it's a bust, I can go back to work and focus on something (or someone!) else. I specifically remember telling Garth how dreamy and soap opera actor-y he looked in his picture. He did not look so dreamy in the flesh. I don't get it. Why post pictures online that don't really look like yourself? You're bound to get caught and really, you're not doing yourself any favours (unless of course, you are not the most photogenic person in the world, in which case, it's a nice surprise).
Thank god for lunch reservations, otherwise I probably would have assumed he stood me up. Garth was a cynic. It was Christmastime, and it was like I was on a date with Scrooge.
And really, could I date a guy named Garth?
Thank god for lunch reservations, otherwise I probably would have assumed he stood me up. Garth was a cynic. It was Christmastime, and it was like I was on a date with Scrooge.
And really, could I date a guy named Garth?
Ricky
Have you ever been on a date with a gay man who doesn't realize he's gay? That's Ricky. Now, if I had spent less time emailing Ricky and more time on the phone with him, I would have at least had a better indication that he was looking for a nonsexual, BFF, shopping partner relationship. I couldn't get a word into the conversation, he didn't ask me any questions about myself (always a red flag), and then described in detail every single jacket he owns. He loves to shop at Holt Renfrew. *I* don't even shop at Holt Renfrew.
At the end of the date, he tried to kiss me. WTF? It's funny how two people can have a completely different perspective of how a date went.
At the end of the date, he tried to kiss me. WTF? It's funny how two people can have a completely different perspective of how a date went.
Eric
Online dating is weird, but it's starting to become trendy. It's worked out for me in the past, so after a much needed break, I thought, why not give it another go? Meet Eric. We decided to go on a "mini pub crawl" after work on a Friday night. Ladies, never give up your weekend time for a random stranger. Yes, it has the potential to go really well, but it can equally be miserable and you can be trapped on a 3 hour "mini pub crawl" date from hell.
I knew instantly that Eric would not be the one for me. But, it was dinner time and I was starving so I ordered my meal and we shared a pitcher of beer. I was trying to fight back my yawns, my time checks and my multiple bathroom breaks, but it was hard. He challenged me on how "expensive" it was that I buy my lunch every day at work. He grilled me about my "passion in life" and then proceeded to tell me that his included collecting figurines and playing video games. For every thing I liked, he disliked. And yet, he still wanted the date to continue! Kill me.
We went to another pub for drinks and when I went to the washroom, Sneaky E ordered us another pitcher of beer. Maybe he thought if he got me drunk, we would be more compatible? When I returned from the ladies room, he asked me why I always brought my purse with me. Ahem. Ladies, as you know, there could be several personal reasons why purses are brought to bathroom stalls. In this case, I was drunk texting a friend to help plan my escape route.
After three hours of excruciating pain, I got up, paid for our bill and told him that I had to get going because I had to pick up a friend at the airport. Probably not the best excuse when 1) you've been drinking heavily and 2) your date knows that you don't own a car.
I knew instantly that Eric would not be the one for me. But, it was dinner time and I was starving so I ordered my meal and we shared a pitcher of beer. I was trying to fight back my yawns, my time checks and my multiple bathroom breaks, but it was hard. He challenged me on how "expensive" it was that I buy my lunch every day at work. He grilled me about my "passion in life" and then proceeded to tell me that his included collecting figurines and playing video games. For every thing I liked, he disliked. And yet, he still wanted the date to continue! Kill me.
We went to another pub for drinks and when I went to the washroom, Sneaky E ordered us another pitcher of beer. Maybe he thought if he got me drunk, we would be more compatible? When I returned from the ladies room, he asked me why I always brought my purse with me. Ahem. Ladies, as you know, there could be several personal reasons why purses are brought to bathroom stalls. In this case, I was drunk texting a friend to help plan my escape route.
After three hours of excruciating pain, I got up, paid for our bill and told him that I had to get going because I had to pick up a friend at the airport. Probably not the best excuse when 1) you've been drinking heavily and 2) your date knows that you don't own a car.
Scott
I don't know about you, but I've always thought a guy who's kind of nerdy is cute. I don't mean the kind that is addicted to World of Warcraft, wearing socks with sandals and is a 40 year old virgin. Intelligence is sexy. But when is nerdy "too nerdy"?
Enter Scott. A "nice guy" (boring) with a good/stable job, a bit shy/quiet/serious and nerdy. We didn't really have very many things in common at all. There were plenty of awkward silences on our date and I didn't laugh as much as I had wanted to (that, or my jokes weren't funny). In the past, I have usually felt a spark of some sort or at least a desire/curiosity to find out more. I'm not so sure about Scott.
But then I started to think about friends of mine and their significant others and how different they are from each other. Do opposites really attract?
I always thought I should give a potential suitor a 2-3 date grace period. I'm on the fence with this one. This was also the first time I let a friend of mine set me up. You assume your friends sometimes know you better than you know yourself. Clearly there was something about Scott that made my friend think I was a good match for him. But what?
Enter Scott. A "nice guy" (boring) with a good/stable job, a bit shy/quiet/serious and nerdy. We didn't really have very many things in common at all. There were plenty of awkward silences on our date and I didn't laugh as much as I had wanted to (that, or my jokes weren't funny). In the past, I have usually felt a spark of some sort or at least a desire/curiosity to find out more. I'm not so sure about Scott.
But then I started to think about friends of mine and their significant others and how different they are from each other. Do opposites really attract?
I always thought I should give a potential suitor a 2-3 date grace period. I'm on the fence with this one. This was also the first time I let a friend of mine set me up. You assume your friends sometimes know you better than you know yourself. Clearly there was something about Scott that made my friend think I was a good match for him. But what?
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